When a caring role ends because the person you looked after has died, the impact can be deeply felt – not just emotionally, but physically, socially, and practically. Whether you cared for a parent, partner, child, friend, or neighbour, the loss can leave a complex mixture of grief, relief, guilt, and a deep sense of absence.
Losing the person you cared for may leave you with a sudden sense of emptiness or loss of purpose. You may also have practical questions such as:
– What happens to any carer benefits or allowances?
– How do I manage household changes or financial matters?
– Who can I talk to?
You are not alone, and support is available. This page offers guidance, support, organisations and resources to help you navigate this difficult time.
Emotional and Practical Support
Talk to Someone
Bereavement can be isolating, but sharing your feelings can help:
– Reach out to friends or family
– Contact a bereavement support service
– Speak with your GP if you’re feeling overwhelmed or anxious.
Connect with Others
Connecting with other former carers through support groups or getting involved in a volunteering role can provide a new focus, comfort and understanding.
Look After Yourself
Grief can take a toll on your health. Try to:
– Get enough rest
– Eat nourishing meals
– Take gentle walks or do activities you enjoy (even if they feel hard at first)
– Allow yourself time – there’s no timeline for healing.
Practical Matters
Notify relevant services – Carer’s Allowance and other benefits often stop after the person dies. You may need to inform the Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) and your local council.
Apply for bereavement benefits – You may be eligible for financial help or a Bereavement Support Payment.
Settle estates or housing arrangements – If you lived with the person you cared for, seek advice on housing, tenancy, or inheritance issues.
Useful Resources
Cruse Bereavement Support – www.cruse.org.uk
Carers UK (Coping with bereavement) – www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice/practical-support/coping-with-bereavement
Carers Trust (Coping with Grief) – www.carers.org/when-caring-ends/coping-with-grief
Citizens Advice – www.citizensadvice.org.uk
Medical Examiner Service for Wales – Information for people who have lost their loved ones (Easy Read)
Marie Curie Bereavement Support Line – 0800 090 2309
Samaritans (24/7 support) – 116 123